Well I know every ones reaction when I tell you this next bit of information is going to be disbelief and maybe a little disgust:
My 10 month old still does not sleep through the night!
He still gets up at least once for a bottle and a couple of other times in the night for who knows what. I know, I know, there is NO reason he should be doing this still. Or rather, there is no reason I should be doing this. But for some reason it is unbearable for me to listen to him cry when I know that all I have to do is get up for a minute and then everything will be OK (at least in the short-term)! This is the reason I could never handle twins! I feel so much worse than even my crying child, and "I cant help myself".... but now I am pregnant. And as my belly grows, so does my exhaustion, and my resolve (sort of) to get past this nightly dilemma. I don't know why I can't do this! I know it is my fault my kids aren't sleeping through the night until months after they learn to walk.
I don't know how to do this.
Bennett is old enough now that he will take it personally and be hurt if I just ignore him and leave him in the crib. In fact, I tried, but true to his brother, he just puked all over!
My mother has had a difficult time of letting go of her children and letting them figure things out on their own. I have the same problem; if I see a situation, I want to help and put a band-aid on everything, whether or not it is truly for the good of my child. Lame, I know. Stupid, I know. Let just say the next few nights are going to be hard on Bennett, but especially on me. Mommy, its time to grow up!
I just pray I have the strength to do (or not do) what is needed!
Merry Christmas 2025
5 months ago
4 comments:
Awe, I'll say a little prayer for you! I can't pretend to know what it's like, yet, but my time will come in about two months. :)
That's why we turn off the monitor, close the door, and go somewhere we can't hear him. Problem solved! :)
I actually have him sleeping in the closet(anywhere else in the house he would wake up the kids). There was no monitor and two closed doors between me and the baby (and we each had a fan on). The only way I wouldnt hear him is if I added earplugs! Call me a masochist, but I want to at least know when my baby is upset. If he screams for more than half an hour at a time I go in and make him lay down, give him his binky, let him know that I love him, and leave. I think of it like this: Heavenly Father is aware of our troubles, loves us, and while he doesnt take our trial away, he reasures us and gives us comfort in our worst moments. I know everyone may not approve, but thats what I do!
Shayla, I think you're doing a great job! You are balancing your needs and abilities with those of your children and you are doing what you can. No one can ask for any more! Your kids are not going to be messed up because you check in on them. I had my daugher sleep in my bed with me until she was 1, we had a couple really difficult nights to transition, but now she falls asleep on her own and sleeps through the night perfectly. You do what works for you and your family. Good luck on your transition and you will be in my thoughts.
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